Teenage Daughter Problem

[Lowlife82]

Us too, both our daughters were cheerleaders for the Edmonton Rush............No frickin wonder i am Grey!!! Hey ,both me and Ray drive a Popo, it might of caused more damage than we originally thought...............HeHehe

Pics please. Just kiddin.

 

[Mike270412]

Go get chit canned at Bourbon street,then make the little chit drive you home.(I'm known for being brutally honest after a few cocktails,,kid might never want anything to do with you after that)

Offer to drive them there. Go where you want in the mall and pick them up and take them home. Just a idea. Explain the underage thing and tell your concerns. If life means anything to him he may listen.

But seriously,like someone else already mentioned 16-13 is a huge difference,as they get older 3 years doesn't mean that much.Only way my daughter would have gone anywhere with a 16yr old boy when she was 13 was with a parental chaperon.

 

[rzrgade]

That is such a tough age,,,,,,,and girls are so much harder to reason with than boys, imo.Be open set boundaries and stick to them,however above all give them all the tools to make the best possible decisions !!! No DAD can be there 24/7......
As Arff said sometimes they will cross that line ,but in the big picture, if you raised them right 95% of the time they will do the right thing.........

Our two have turned out awesome, one is a writer and a fantastic mother........The other has her masters in Evolutionary Psychology and is and avid pole dance teacher.............LOL

 

[Ms. Swimmer]

BF I didn't read in your post what your daughter's take on all this is. I have a clear picture of where you are coming from...lol!! But what does she think? Whatever you do don't back her into a corner because even if she doesn't want to go or may be uncomfortable or hesitant if you do that she will strike out and want to do it just because you said she couldn't.

I can't help but think that at 13 she probably in her heart of hearts feels pretty uncomfortable with this situation. Do her friends have "boyfriends". Ask her what having a "boyfriend" or dating looks like at 13? I have 5 kids 3 boys and 2 girls there is no way in hell I would put my 13 year old daughter in this situation that is just asking for trouble.

What about a group type activity some of her friends some of his friends hanging out at the local beach or said pool. Another thing is he wouldn't be driving my daughter either. If he wants to drive he could meet you there or whatever but he is too young and inexperienced to be driving.

What do his parents think about this? Do you have any contact with them?

 

[J-Roc]

Tough. I'm not a parent yet, but this situation can't be easy.

Ever see duck dynasty? He took his daughter's prom date hunting. Turned out he kinda liked the kid.
What about taking them quadding together? That way you can see what kind of guy he is, keep an eye on how they interact with you around, etc. The three of you Might even have fun! Or, she might realize the age gap is too much on her own?

Wish I had something to offer from actual parenting advice. If I did have a daughter though, I wouldn't let her into the city with anyone besides family or very trusted friends. Heck, I even get nervous when the wife goes alone.

 

[Luke The Drifter]

I have to ask what kind of a loser this kid is that he can't date girls his own age? I remember back when I was in high school we made fun of guys who dated girls in junior high... I'd tell the kid to take a hike if he knows whats good for him and if he wants to chase your daughter he can when she's 18.

 

[snopro]

I have to ask what kind of a loser this kid is that he can't date girls his own age? I remember back when I was in high school we made fun of guys who dated girls in junior high... I'd tell the kid to take a hike if he knows whats good for him and if he wants to chase your daughter he can when she's 18.

Pull the horny little bugger off to the side, tell him if he trys anything with your daughter you are going to charge him with rape. She is underage after all. Tell him there are "guys " in the slammer that may find him more attractive than he does your daughter. That should give him something to think about. Just sayn'......

 

[rubirose]

Well as a mother of a 16 year old boy if he ever started dating a girl that was not his own age, I would put a stop to it. Explain to him why. My son is a great kid so I am not worried that this would ever happen.lol. If it was my daughter not in a million years would I allow this to happen. Too big an age difference , there are too many risks. And there is no need for her to have a boyfriend that is not in her immediate age group.

 

[Summitric]

haha i was reading these posts and thinking, geesh, atleast now i know who has all the nice looking daughters, maybe i should make some new friends! Haha

my daughter is single.........heeheehee........ Jus' sayin'

she's always lookin' for a good boyfriend........ Gotta be summitric approved though

 

[snopro]

my daughter is single.........heeheehee........ Jus' sayin'

she's always lookin' for a good boyfriend........ Gotta be summitric approved though

You getting a new salesman to?

 

[Ms. Swimmer]

The bottom line BF talk to her...find out where she is on all this you maybe surprised. Her idea of what is going on and yours maybe 2 totally different things. Like I said before dating and boyfriends to her maybe a totally different ball of wax than what you think they are. Having said that though they will definitely be a totally different thing to this young man.

Why the sudden interest in your daughter? Is it just a physical thing? The maturity levels between 13 and 16 is eons apart especially when you throw 2 different genders into it.

It is easy to talk from this side of the looking glass. You are living the reality. Best of luck to you!! Please let us know how this turns out if you are comfortable with that.

PS My daughters have already been told they aren't dating until they are 35 and the young men must be Mom approved!!!!!

 

[arff]

Communication is key. Talk to you kids all the time. Our girls have careers own houses and 2 are married. They all come over every couple weeks for dinner. Also call us every few days.

Cant stress enough about talking to your kids.

 

[rsaint]

Pull the horny little bugger off to the side, tell him if he trys anything with your daughter you are going to charge him with rape. She is underage after all. Tell him there are "guys " in the slammer that may find him more attractive than he does your daughter. That should give him something to think about. Just sayn'......

Then hand him a t shirt with target on it front and back and your going to play a game with him and he gets a head start.

 

[snopro]

Then hand him a t shirt with target on it front and back and your going to play a game with him and he gets a head start.

Ask him if he saw hunger games? HaHa.

 

[scrfce]

Dude u r fawked. Tell her she can't go and she'll hate you for it. Tell the boy you will kill him if he touches her, he'll see it as a challenge to over come. Just go work outta town till she's 20 or curl up in the fetal position and say "sunshine and lolipops" over and over until you fall asleep. A girls dad once told me he would stick a log splitter up my ass if I touched his little girl, I hit that ch!t the same night. Feeling better yet? Best advise I could give you is to walk around the yard with a gun a lot and look at the little creep with crazy eyes. Or you could update her facebook status to "HIV positive". LOL good luck dude i'm going to get a vasectomy.... thanks

hooolay shiiiit that is by far the funniest post EVER on snow and mud! thx

 

[sirkdev]

Boy this is a tough one I have 2 little beautiful girls that I have been terrified of this day, all I can suggest is great communication, be involved let her know you will be there no matter what and that they can talk to you about anything..... Fact of the matter is they are growing up whether we like it or not so best be involved rather than hearing the after math. I hope my girls will always know no matter what they can allllllllways come to me.

BUT 16-13 no chance thats two different mindsets.

 

[Bogger]

You approved Trent, the quiz can't be that tough....

my daughter is single.........heeheehee........ Jus' sayin'

she's always lookin' for a good boyfriend........ Gotta be summitric approved though

 

[Bogger]

PS My daughters have already been told they aren't dating until they are 35 and the young men must be Mom approved!!!!!

Raising cougars I see....

 

[Bogger]

I have 3 daughters 14, 17 & 20....

the 20 year old at 14 was Lucifer in disguise...ran away with a boy, arrested, drugs etc... we were somewhat naive at that point...

Our 14 & 17 year olds are more even keel, responsible and very open. Samantha (14) knows that I will extend my full trust in her decisions until she gives me reason not too, we've had all the talks and she knows from my opinion what teenage boys are like. I can't be there all the time but she knows she can talk to me about ANYTHING at anytime...That said 16 year old boy wanted to take her out I'd fall back on the new drivers excuse and insist on doing the driving....

 

[teeroy]

You approved Trent, the quiz can't be that tough....

I think the TSN turning point was the sasquatch costume