Ok guys need a bit of parenting advice

gdhillon

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My thoughts with telling someone goes to this, wander into the local police detachment and give them the heads up leaving everyone in the dark at the school. Who knows who is supplying who.

My daughter was a tough run during her early teen years with drugs, alcohol, eating dissorter and yes suicide. God love her she is coming around but the scars both mental and physical will be with her forever. What finally helped the ex wife and I steer her in a better direction was a drug test that she tested positive for METH of which she still to this day says she never did. Only thing I can come up with was the weed was laced (I don't even know if it can be done) but is was one hell of an eye opener to her and us. The world is a changing place and taking a back seat to "minding your own business" as Pinner so put is gone. Bare in mind "pinner" is something I use to roll when I was short or it was wheel chair quality. None of us are angels. The comment "minding your own business" tells me someone maybe worried they could have distribution interuptions and bothers me quite a lot. Offending anyone here is not my concern either. Drug abuse and its negitive side effects is everyones problem, for it to escalate it only needs a door to open. We as reasonablely responsible adults and parents need to close that door. Kids are our future and they maybe good kids that turn a blind eye but a drive by shooting or such does not discriminate (yes it is a bit on the extreme side but the potential is there).

The end of the day it is your son and your call, best of luck.


I agree, when i was in highschool I always heard of shady dealers spraying there buds with windex to make it heavier and who knows what else. That didnt stop me from buying it b/c I 'knew' what was best for me. Anyway, my point you should go to the cop shop

The age for kids experimenting with drugs,sex,partying is only going lower and lower
 

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I agree, when i was in highschool I always heard of shady dealers spraying there buds with windex to make it heavier and who knows what else. That didnt stop me from buying it b/c I 'knew' what was best for me. Anyway, my point you should go to the cop shop

The age for kids experimenting with drugs,sex,partying is only going lower and lower
Usually it was just water or Sprite. These days, some dealers are trying to make their bud appear more potent (and addictive) by spraying them with cheap amphetamines - that's pretty concerning.
 

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With my daughter I bypassed the school and went right to the cops as well, had a text with a # and make/model of car. told them if they kept an eye on my daughter eventually they'd get him in the act. the lacing is the biggest concern now days..... I miss the days when acid was acid and shrooms were shrooms....

Told her if she was hell bent on smoking pot I could get her stuff I know is clean and not fawked with....she chose to give it up.

My thoughts with telling someone goes to this, wander into the local police detachment and give them the heads up leaving everyone in the dark at the school. Who knows who is supplying who.

My daughter was a tough run during her early teen years with drugs, alcohol, eating dissorter and yes suicide. God love her she is coming around but the scars both mental and physical will be with her forever. What finally helped the ex wife and I steer her in a better direction was a drug test that she tested positive for METH of which she still to this day says she never did. Only thing I can come up with was the weed was laced (I don't even know if it can be done) but is was one hell of an eye opener to her and us. The world is a changing place and taking a back seat to "minding your own business" as Pinner so put is gone. Bare in mind "pinner" is something I use to roll when I was short or it was wheel chair quality. None of us are angels. The comment "minding your own business" tells me someone maybe worried they could have distribution interuptions and bothers me quite a lot. Offending anyone here is not my concern either. Drug abuse and its negitive side effects is everyones problem, for it to escalate it only needs a door to open. We as reasonablely responsible adults and parents need to close that door. Kids are our future and they maybe good kids that turn a blind eye but a drive by shooting or such does not discriminate (yes it is a bit on the extreme side but the potential is there).

The end of the day it is your son and your call, best of luck.
 

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I'd go to the police. Your son already did the right thing by coming to you. Your advice and actions will guide him in future decisions. Telling him to ignore this one may make him think to just ignore the next and possibly more troubling event.
Very few of my friends did any drugs when I was 14. Drinking was the fun thing to do for us. Drugs have always scared me and still do.
 

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personally I don't understand how we as society can turn a blind eye to kids doing drugs. I have raised 3 daughters and I am sure they experimented but they don't use them which makes this dad very happy. If I found out they were doing pot at 14 I would have fought that tooth and nail. Maybe this is why society has gone to crap in the last one or two generations because we as adults are too involved in our own little world and can't see the long term consequences and have no fight in ourselves. For example, when I was growing up and if I wanted something extra….. i.e. a toy I would have to wait until xmas or birthday if I was lucky to get it. When our kids were growing up we never waited for those special days to buy the extras and spoiled them. Now in their early/mid twenties (except for our 15 year old) expect to have everything NOW. Big mistake and it is only going to get worse. So, if we allow kids to be smoking pot at 14 then what? I know there are guys out there that can argue that they did and turned out just fine. But, I also know kids I grew up with doing pot at an early stage and guess what………. useless POS in society. Late 40's now and they are still screwed up with total dysfunctional life styles and no hope of being good tax paying contributors. It is a slippery slope!
 

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Hmmm I wonder if the teachers also turn a blind eye pretty sure I could spot a baked 14 yr old now 30 yr maybe not so easy
As a father I would call the school make them aware if one kid is seeing it lots of kids see it/know it they would have no idea where it could of came from
 

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Well as someone goin through it right now I have my views,as far as your son is concerned just tell him not to associate or be around that group and leave at that,the schools not going to do much about it because it happens all the time and every years for decades now,my 15 year old step son has been goin down that path and unfortunetly its a battle we cant win,His father and my wife let him get away with stuff with no real consiquences all his life and spoiled him rotten,his dad felt it was easier to by him a new vidio game then to punish him so thats what he expected from everyone,then I entered the picture and became the heavy,he smokes pot,drinks my booze that i caught him stealing{threatened to be the crap out of him if he ever touched my stuff agian,then to the rest of his family Im abusive and to hard on him but theres no way im locking up my stuff in my own house},he got so drunk with his buddy they came back to his dads and stole and took all his heart medication so off to the hospital for a stomach pumping,as far as his weed dealer she is a 16 year old A student,the school says they no she is but cant catch her with nothing,he got caught with beer at school,they gave him lunch time detention because he on the football team so he couldnt mis pratices,what a joke.We have tried everything to straghten him out from grounding to takin everthing here away but unfortunatly its just us,me and wife,not the rest of the family,now his dad has bailed to alberta and left it to us,it came to a end when he told his mom she was a bitch and jumped out of a moving car to get away,now he is living with his sister in Vic but nothings changing,the dont make him do much so he just sleeps all day and stays up all night playin vidio games like he has always done,suposedly he is not smokin weed but that will change when he goes to his new school because he makes his own decisions for his life{he has told me that lots of times}We havent gave up but he wants nothin to do with us at all now,we make him do stuff so he doest like it here and f#@s off every chance he gets,its tering his mothers heart apart but he dont give a ****,Its a heavy strain on our relationship,heres more but im tired of typin,just hope it gets better a he matures
 

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You home schooled your kids tex? Sure hope you brought in a tutor to help with English class.
My kids are in the same boat, heard there's is a group of kids 14 that smoke pot


Kids where home schooled for a few years, now going back to school...... Hope my 11 year old boy finds a good group and not a bad group
 

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Told her if she was hell bent on smoking pot I could get her stuff I know is clean and not fawked with....she chose to give it up.
I've told that to both my boys, if they ever want to get drunk or high I'll fix 'em up. don't go sneaking around, there ain't nothing they can do around here that their old man hasn't done, and they'll get in a lot less trouble if I'm in on it.

so far so good, the 17 yr old is on his way to graduating with honors this year....takes after his mother. the 12 yr old scares the sh!t outta me, he's a chip off the old block.
 

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Wow thanks for all the input guys I didn't say this in my first post. But the reason I told my boy to leave it is because him and a friend wanted to try a get photo evidence to take to a teacher. Which I thought was a bit to much and i don't want him having hassle at school if they found out it was him. to clarify yes he has witnessed this him self not just heard it. It sounds stupid but I'm still unsure the best path to take even after all your help.


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You home schooled your kids tex? Sure hope you brought in a tutor to help with English class.
Really.....


It's way better than ur lower than average kids school education, being home schooled





Ur a retard mike, plain and simple for posting that...
 

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I agree with your original post. Keep his nose out of that ****. I was the same way when i went to high school, all my buddies did it i didn't care- it wasn't me. If they're gunna do it, they're gunna do it.
 

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I agree turning a blind eye is a big mistake. I have seen no one say to find out the kids names and talk to the parents of these kids. My son was bullied in Grade 7, and I found talking to the Parents got way more results then going to the school. Some parents still do take an interest in their children now a days. I am very lucky where I live, I am a single Mom.......but my son knows I have many "eyes" out there watching him, especially being in a smaller community. I get emails and FB inboxes when someone questions something they saw him doing. It sure helps me keep hands on parenting and I appreciate the extra eyes. Good on you John that your son respects you enough to confide in you. I know as a hands on parent I would love to hear from another parent that he was caught smoking Pot..............my son is going to be 15 soon so I understand your frustration. And like you, my son knows he can talk to me about ANYTHING, and that's something that I think is important.
 
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