S&ma

[underdog]

Welcome to S&M Anonymous. I'll start the roll call.


Hi, I'm underdog, and I'm addicted to S&M. :d

 

[Longhorn]

Chit...me too...

 

[TheLonelyIsland]

joey is ashamed


i need help.....i'm out of control here.....

 

[underdog]

Just to clarify....... I mean the site.

 

[Longhorn]

Just to clarify....... I mean the site.

Oh, Im ok then....carry on...

 

[TheLonelyIsland]

Just to clarify....... I mean the site.

LOL.......

 

[ferniesnow]

more the Snow part than the Mud part but yes, me too.....

 

[JaySimon]

I'm not addicted, I can quit whenever I want....

:d

 

[underdog]

I'm not addicted, I can quit whenever I want....

:d

The first step is admitting

 

[TheLonelyIsland]

I'm not addicted, I can quit whenever I want....

:d

ok quit now.........

 

[eclipse1966]

Maybe we need to set up something like AA does but tweak it for S&M addictions. But I am not into sharing my feelings as listed in point 4 below :d:d


AA MEETING STRUCTURE

1. Meeting needs to be in a quiet uninterupted room at fixed times.

2. Welcome - Chairperson starts the meeting on time by giving a welcome like "I am Bob, an alcoholic. I would like to welcome you to the Monday evening Narcology Centre meeting. We would like to give a special welcome to new attendees and have you introduce yourselves".

3. "Preamble" read by chairperson

4. Chairperson asks that a member or members read the "How It Works" from the "Alcoholics Anonymous" book.

5. The "12 Traditions" are read by a member or members.

6. The AA / SUPPORT GROUP GUIDELINES may be reviewed if new people are present. (The group may refer to a posted chart)

1) KEEP CONFIDENTIALITY - "What you hear here stays here"

2) MAKE "I STATEMENTS" - Avoid using "you" or "we"

3) STAY IN THE "HERE AND NOW" - Share what you are dealing with today or this week.

4) SHARE FEELINGS about your experience, strength, and hope.

5) NO FIXING - NO ADVICE GIVING

6) NO CROSSTALK - No asking of questions or discussion

7. The chairperson may suggest a topic or step to share on at the meeting. Each time someone shares they will begin by first saying " I am Bob, I am an alcoholic". The group will then respond by saying "Hi Bob". After someone finishes sharing the group will respond with "Thanks, Bob". This builds respect.

8. When the time for the meeting to close the chairperson will ask the attendees for someone to chair the next meeting. Then he will ask all to stand and hold hands and say or read the "Serenity Prayer" from the wall:

"God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I can not change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference"

At the end of the prayer they may say "keep coming back it works if you work it".

9. The meeting is now over. The attendees may stay and have informal discussion or ask questions of one another before leaving.

(Coffee or tea may be available before or after the meeting.)

AA MEETING SCRIPT

Opening:

1. "Welcome to Alcoholics Anonymous, a worldwide fellowship of men and women who help each other to stay sober. This is a closed meeting,you are welcome to stay if you have a desire to quit drinking. If you have had a drink in the last 24 hours, we ask that you only listen during the meeting."

2. "I will now read the Preamble."

Introductions:

1. "Is there anyone who is here for their first AA meeting? Please introduce yourself by your first name only. We want to welcome you now."

2. "Are there any visitors from another fellowship, city, or country? Welcome!"

3. "We will now introduce ourselves by our first name only, for example,

'I am Bill, an alcoholic.' Group then responds with 'Hi Bill' "

Reading:

"We will now begin by passing the 'How It Works' from chapter 5 of the Alcoholics Anonymous book. Please read a paragraph or step then pass it to the next person to read until the reading is finished."

Sharing:

"Please remember to keep confidentiality: 'Who you see and what you hear here stays here.' We ask that you limit your sharing to 3-5 minutes, in order that all may have the opportunity to share. There is to be no crosstalk or interruptions. In general, we share our experience, strength, and hope - as we briefly say 'what it was like, what happened, and what it is like now'. Share feelings, using 'I statements' (rather than 'you statements')." "The meeting is now open for discussion on a topic (or readings)."

Closing:

1. "In keeping with the 7th tradition which states that 'we are fully self supporting' -'We will now pass the box', The money will go for AA expenses like the tea, snacks, literature, chips, etc"

2. "Who would like to read "The Promises"?"

3. "We want to thank ____ for preparing the tea, ______for setting up the room, ______ for displaying the literature."

4. "Are there any AA related announcements?" May announce time and place of other AA meetings.

5. "We thank each one for sharing tonight, if you were not able to share, please share with someone after the meeting."

6. " There is a phone list if you need to talk with someone between meetings."

7. "Is there anyone with at least 6 months of sobriety who is willing to be a sponsor? Please identify yourself now."

8. "We will now close with standing and holding hands and say the 'Serenity Prayer'."

 

[underdog]

Maybe we need to set up something like AA does but tweak it for S&M addictions. But I am not into sharing my feelings as listed in point 4 below :d:d


AA MEETING STRUCTURE

1. Meeting needs to be in a quiet uninterupted room at fixed times.

2. Welcome - Chairperson starts the meeting on time by giving a welcome like "I am Bob, an alcoholic. I would like to welcome you to the Monday evening Narcology Centre meeting. We would like to give a special welcome to new attendees and have you introduce yourselves".

3. "Preamble" read by chairperson

4. Chairperson asks that a member or members read the "How It Works" from the "Alcoholics Anonymous" book.

5. The "12 Traditions" are read by a member or members.

6. The AA / SUPPORT GROUP GUIDELINES may be reviewed if new people are present. (The group may refer to a posted chart)

1) KEEP CONFIDENTIALITY - "What you hear here stays here"

2) MAKE "I STATEMENTS" - Avoid using "you" or "we"

3) STAY IN THE "HERE AND NOW" - Share what you are dealing with today or this week.

4) SHARE FEELINGS about your experience, strength, and hope.

5) NO FIXING - NO ADVICE GIVING

6) NO CROSSTALK - No asking of questions or discussion

7. The chairperson may suggest a topic or step to share on at the meeting. Each time someone shares they will begin by first saying " I am Bob, I am an alcoholic". The group will then respond by saying "Hi Bob". After someone finishes sharing the group will respond with "Thanks, Bob". This builds respect.

8. When the time for the meeting to close the chairperson will ask the attendees for someone to chair the next meeting. Then he will ask all to stand and hold hands and say or read the "Serenity Prayer" from the wall:

"God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I can not change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference"

At the end of the prayer they may say "keep coming back it works if you work it".

9. The meeting is now over. The attendees may stay and have informal discussion or ask questions of one another before leaving.

(Coffee or tea may be available before or after the meeting.)

AA MEETING SCRIPT

Opening:

1. "Welcome to Alcoholics Anonymous, a worldwide fellowship of men and women who help each other to stay sober. This is a closed meeting,you are welcome to stay if you have a desire to quit drinking. If you have had a drink in the last 24 hours, we ask that you only listen during the meeting."

2. "I will now read the Preamble."

Introductions:

1. "Is there anyone who is here for their first AA meeting? Please introduce yourself by your first name only. We want to welcome you now."

2. "Are there any visitors from another fellowship, city, or country? Welcome!"

3. "We will now introduce ourselves by our first name only, for example,

'I am Bill, an alcoholic.' Group then responds with 'Hi Bill' "

Reading:

"We will now begin by passing the 'How It Works' from chapter 5 of the Alcoholics Anonymous book. Please read a paragraph or step then pass it to the next person to read until the reading is finished."

Sharing:

"Please remember to keep confidentiality: 'Who you see and what you hear here stays here.' We ask that you limit your sharing to 3-5 minutes, in order that all may have the opportunity to share. There is to be no crosstalk or interruptions. In general, we share our experience, strength, and hope - as we briefly say 'what it was like, what happened, and what it is like now'. Share feelings, using 'I statements' (rather than 'you statements')." "The meeting is now open for discussion on a topic (or readings)."

Closing:

1. "In keeping with the 7th tradition which states that 'we are fully self supporting' -'We will now pass the box', The money will go for AA expenses like the tea, snacks, literature, chips, etc"

2. "Who would like to read "The Promises"?"

3. "We want to thank ____ for preparing the tea, ______for setting up the room, ______ for displaying the literature."

4. "Are there any AA related announcements?" May announce time and place of other AA meetings.

5. "We thank each one for sharing tonight, if you were not able to share, please share with someone after the meeting."

6. " There is a phone list if you need to talk with someone between meetings."

7. "Is there anyone with at least 6 months of sobriety who is willing to be a sponsor? Please identify yourself now."

8. "We will now close with standing and holding hands and say the 'Serenity Prayer'."

I think we can skip the last step too.

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[Longhorn]

Ya thats not gonna work...

I seldom hold hands with other men UNLESS I am really drunk...and seldom pray...

 

[rmk 800 144]

Can we get paid to be on s&m like a full time job lol

 

[magnet]

Can we get paid to be on s&m like a full time job lol

yes for 16 wks or until the ei runs out you could.

oh and back to the point i am not addicted as i choose to be here and do not want to leave and if i had to i could at any time.

 

[eclipse1966]

Ya thats not gonna work...

I seldom hold hands with other men UNLESS I am really drunk...and seldom pray...

agreed but why only drunk Or is that a loaded question lol

 

[Longhorn]

agreed but why only drunk Or is that a loaded question lol

Well, do YOU ever hold hands with a man sober???

 

[underdog]

agreed but why only drunk Or is that a loaded question lol

I hope I never have to meet you...........

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[eclipse1966]

Well, do YOU ever hold hands with a man sober???

hahaha. NOPE but not drunk either. I may hold his beer though

 

[Longhorn]

hahaha. NOPE but not drunk either. I may hold his beer though

Hey, ya never know...There a lot of 'I love you man' when guys are drunk...you may have and just forgot LOL

And Im not saying I have...Just that in order to follow the rules of the AA meetings, last point was to hold hands and say a prayer...Im assuming you cant drink at an AA meeting, so it was in reference to that LOL

Sheesh...Trust me, even drunk, I wont try hold your hand...or make ya say a prayer...