I am very sorry to hear that it is not going well, If you still have it we are going to Medicine lake this weekend, My friend Isobel went through the same bullch!t that you are going through. Her husband refinanced all his credit cards to the house and then buggered off to live with his new "christian girlfriend" that he knocked up. Meanwhile the son and daughter that they had together get left out in the cold. She managed to keep everything together and is doing well. Meantime numbnuts is still renting and has nothing to show for himself. I suspect Bob is going to go through the same thing. Keep your chin up and stick your guns. The toughest part is explaining to your son how this is working, Bob should never, ever let the boy be a tool in own selfishness. Your son will figure it out pretty soon. Sometimes you just got to get out just to clear your head and get a different perspective on things. Kelly